To develop a strong relationship, the man has to do the balancing act. So it is important to prepare the ground before marriage. This is the key to ensure that both women have equally important and separate, roles to play in your life.
· Banish Insecurities: Ensure that your mother shouldn’t feel threatened because of the new woman in your life. Don’t stop communicating with her just because you have a new person to talk to.
· Involve: Your wife feels like she has left her parents, friends, old life and sometimes country to be a part of yours and thus has high expectations. Involve your mother and ask her how to make her comfortable. This will make her feel as a part of your life and the wife will see your mother as a pleasant facilitator and not an enemy.
· Appreciate: The kitchen is the most common war zone, but it need not be. Never compare one’s cooking with the other and do not praise the one’s cooking in front of the other. Appreciate and thank each one of them separately. Even if it’s a small gesture like getting flowers, buy them for both women.
· Divide your time: You love both the woman and it is important to that they don’t feel insecure about the other. Have dinner with her when your wife is having a girls’ night out. Similarly, whisk your wife away for romantic getaways and dates.
· Watch your tongue: Never lose your temper at one in front of the other. Do not exchange what one has said about the other. When both of them are arguing, encourage them to communicate and deal with it in their own way. Step into it only if it gets aggressive.
Lastly, it is not a bad idea to make both the woman feel that they are special.
